Sometimes it can feel like you’re doing ridiculously terribly, but it’s actually because you’re so invested in the outcome that no effort of yours feels like it’s good enough. And even if you’re not getting the performance you want, that level of dedication is really important! Also, from a hypothetical authoritative/team leader perspective, someone with more experience and better skills who doesn’t try as hard can be less of an asset than someone with more to learn who is really giving it their all. Even if you didn’t feel like you did so well, I’m sure how much you’ve been working is really shining through!
I thought today I played 2 of my worst games but all my coaches said ridiculously nice things and I don’t know if they’re all just being nice or what
it makes me mad that shaving and being nearly hairless is pretty much compulsory for women but so many feminists instead focus on how shaving/not shaving are morally the same and are personal choices. outside of some queer and fringe feminist circles literally no one is shaming you for shaving or otherwise eliminating your body hair.
obviously it’s a “personal decision” but one that is greatly informed by misogynistic beauty standards and culturally-enforced grooming practices.
Okay yes but if I want to shave my underarms, I will, if I don’t want to shave my legs, I won’t. It’s not something I’m too fussed about but at the same time I like it being my own personal choice. I prefer sometimes being hairless and sometimes not. But it’s my choice, and this post makes me feel shamed for making that choice.
It is a personal choice, and whatever choice you make is alright, but socialization and compulsory femininity do come into play, so it is important to be critical of your choices, because they are impacted by society. shaving and not shaving are different because one is the norm and one is not. that is all.
”this post makes me feel shamed” jesus christ grow the fuck up. Are we just supposed to shut up about harmful beauty norms imposed on women because some who comply to them want to maintain the illusion of a truly chosen choice free from societal expectations? The ”shame” you feel over people pointing out the pressure put on women to live up to those ideals is nothing like the main cultural narrative that women must look like that or be considered disgusting and worthless.
What happens when women don’t shave?
Well, I can only speak of my own hairy legs, but I’ve experienced:
- Being told I’m “disgusting”
- Being laughed at
- Being pointed/stared at by strangers
- Being whispered about
- Having a potential sexual partner be “grossed out” by my body
- Being shamed
- Being told to “shave that shit”
… if these are the repercussions of having hairy legs (not to mention hairy armpits or pubic hair), do women really have much of a “free choice” when it comes to shaving?